I fucking hate these people so much.

    • BelieveRevolt [he/him]
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      433 months ago

      I don’t care if my child ever pays taxes — but I do care that she may never have the opportunity to work or live independently. She did not destroy my family, but I live in constant fear for her safety. I care deeply about her quality of life, and the limited options ahead.

      ”Does the society we live in have a role in this? No, it’s my child who is wrong.”

    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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      413 months ago

      So many parents view having a “normal” child as their right. “Oh but I spent so long fantasizing about this, how could it not come true?”.

    • VILenin [he/him]
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      We have moved from viewing disability through a purely medical lens — as something broken to be fixed — to a social lens that puts the onus on society to accommodate it.

      Neurotypical fascist whining about having to put up with the uppity autistics, example 99472772874.

      The worst part is this isn’t some fascist hardliner anomaly view, but the opinion of the average neurotypical. I could count the number of neurotypicals I’ve met who wouldn’t put the neurodiverse “burdens” on flights to El Salvador on one hand. When Trump starts doing just that, I’ll expect nothing short of celebration from the average person, whether or not they openly do so. Sick and diseased society

    • quarrk [he/him]
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      122 months ago

      Ah yes, viewing disability as a problem to be fixed is very medical and rational and totally not based entirely on how your society is structured.

      100-com

    • Salem [he/him]
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      That last paragraph you wrote reminded of that page from Flowers for Algernon, where the father defends his son Charlie from his mother.

      Matt - the father - loved his son and accepted him regardless of his disabilities.

      We should all be grateful we are not divorced from love, even if just as a concept of it, as Emily May is.

  • Acute_Engles [he/him, any]
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    653 months ago

    I live in terror of the day she outgrows cute, and I worry constantly that as she grows bigger, her world grows

    What the fuck

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    the reality and pain of a subset of parents of children with autism who feel left out of much of the conversation around the condition.

    If anything they are always dominating the conversation despite being in the minority of autism cases. I understand it’s hard for them, but it’s not all about you and you’re talking over autistic adults who should be heard more.

    • Pentacat [he/him]
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      392 months ago

      They’re always talking over their children. Makes sense to ignore everyone who has lived experience with autism in favor of parents getting over the narcissistic wounding that came with having a kid that didn’t fit their fantasy.

      • BeamBrain [he/him]M
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        262 months ago

        Starting to think that narcissistic parents are way more common than anyone wants to admit.

        • Bishop_Owl [none/use name]
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          Yeah I’d say it makes sense that people who are not narcissists would have less interest in creating genetic copies of themselves. I’d be willing to bet that if we had the option of cloning, it would be the more popular one.

    • Le_Wokisme [they/them, undecided]
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      If anything they are always dominating the conversation despite being in the minority of autism cases. I understand it’s hard for them, but it’s not all about you and you’re talking over autistic adults who should be heard more.

      we had a nonverbal kid on the school bus one year and it was really cool of his parents and the school system to abuse that kid and by extension everyone else on the bus route on top of school starting too damn early in the morning. I’m not even sure if low-support adults are able to be effective advocates for the kids who have it the worst.

      • VHS [he/him]
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        Someone does need to advocate for them, I don’t think their parents are qualified either. “Autism parents” seem so arrogant and self-centered

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    parents of children with autism who feel left out of much of the conversation around the condition.

    Oh yea, totally. The parents of autistic children are hardly ever heard from 🙄

    We have moved from viewing disability through a purely medical lens — as something broken to be fixed

    YOU CAN’T FIX IT!! god, why do people think if you invest enough tech points in an issue anything is possible? Just completely treat it as magic. I hate this attitude and it is so pervasive. You see people calling for conversion therapy with language like this too. Lots of disabilities are just- not fixable.

    There’s a resistance to parents who wish their children were less disabled

    I- I think everyone wishes your child was less disabled.

    • buckykat [none/use name]
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      Whenever a ghoul proposes doing the most evil thing possible the NYT will be there to publish an article about how it’s good actually

    • dil [he/him, comrade/them]
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      62 months ago

      Yeah I only made it through the first few paragraphs before it became clear this was antivax propaganda.

      “I asked why she regressed, doctor says it’s common”

      “RFK Jr says…”

      “I got her vaccinated”

      Just right in a row.

      So gross.

  • vegeta1 [he/him]
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    463 months ago

    Didn’t take much for the “left of centrist” to side with fascist shit.

  • TrustedFeline [she/her, comrade/them]
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    453 months ago

    I have no interest in defending Mr. Kennedy, whose shaky science and conspiracy theories will do nothing to benefit those with autism and their families.

    And yet…

  • Dessa [she/her]
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    443 months ago

    When Robert F. Kennedy Jr. said in a recent press briefing that autistic children will “never pay taxes,” “never hold a job,”

    How terrible that must be

  • Llituro [he/him, they/them]
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    363 months ago

    Parents are encouraged not to use words like “severe,” “profound,” or even “Level 3” to describe our child’s autism

    yeah, i wonder why. what a fucking nightmare this person is, i feel bad for her daughter. i like pokemon, i’m not literally a pokemon. when we say this shit has levels to it, i don’t think ranking and numbering them is what anyone meant.

    • @FishLake@lemmygrad.ml
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      Maybe, just maybe, laypeople shouldn’t use the same clinical and/or medicalized language used by professionals who know what the hell they’re talking about to describe their own children.

      Same energy as the parents I was talking to a few months ago saying they have a “male son.” Oh okay, I thought this was a parent-teacher conference, but apparently I’m speaking to a couple zoologists.

  • Awoo [she/her]
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    192 months ago

    Someone wanna fill me in on what else the Kennedy ghoul said that must be so controversial it’s not included in this article?