• @uniquethrowagay@feddit.org
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    Disclaimer: I was never an Incel. I held no ill will against women, I always had many female friends. I’m politically active and call myself a feminist. Still, I didn’t ever have a romantic partnership and I suffered from it.

    I am 29 years old. This year I started treating my chronic depression I never admitted I had and oh wonder I found a wonderful partner in a matter of months. Incel ideology is so fucked up. These guys seriously need help and support structures but they reject all that and hate half of humanity instead.

    • @GrammarPolice@lemmy.world
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      Incel ≠ misogynist. Incel means involuntary celibate. We need more people to learn about this and stop equating those two terms

      • Steve Dice
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        51 year ago

        Incel refers to guys that turned misogynist because they’re involuntarily celibate.

          • Steve Dice
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            Yes. You don’t get to redefine a word just because you don’t like it. Incel does and always did mean that.

            • @GrammarPolice@lemmy.world
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              Oh please. Using Wikipedia as a source while knowing entries are provided by individuals. Here’s all of Wiktionary’s definitions of the word:

              A member of an online subculture of people (mostly men) who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one.

              (rare) An individual who is not sexually active despite having such a desire.

              (uncountable, seduction community, informal) “Involuntary celibacy”: the state of being not sexually active despite wishing to be.

              Incel is not a gendered word. Even females can be incels.

              • Steve Dice
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                01 year ago

                Did you somehow miss the 239 references saying you’re wrong?

                • @GrammarPolice@lemmy.world
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                  Clearly you’re the one who lacks reading skills if you didn’t see that 1). The involuntary celibacy project was started by a woman, and 2). It was initially meant for lonely people struggling to find love. Any other meaning attached to the term is a matter of stereotype.

                  This is like saying feminism = misandrist because a lot of people that identify with the term hate men. Cmon man, do better.

                  • Steve Dice
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                    Careful there, you’re gonna run out of straw. The woman who started the project also denounced it because it became a breeding ground for bitter, virgin men resentful of women that turned their anger into misogyny. You really don’t seem to know how language works. Grow up.