We all are, to varying degrees. Some are just more aware of it than others.
But I didn’t approach your last remark by the harsher side. All the images coming to mind as I read it were censorable out of being plain stupid and childish.
Therapists can easily suffer of professional bias. I’ve done therapy as well and it came to a point when I felt my therapists were overly concerned and trying to victimize me. It is their role to help us be aware of things that may be lacking or holding us back but their trainning can make them view things as so damaging that a person being to cope and manage trauma by themselves and lead a somewhat balanced life is an impossible concept.
Yeah dont tell me im six foot which is the average where i live but women are just so much shorter… for me it actually helps that im 100kg with a pretty muscular build because I only care abou the height and from my experience taller women tend to like wider men. Idk. Still its hard out here lol
That’s a funny comment, but yeah - I’m the average height of men in my area, and like to be outmassed. I do like guys to be bigger than me in some dimension, and it hasn’t ever been height (tall guys here all seem to date short women). I have been about the same height as the guys of all my 3 serious relationships (not unusual since that’s the most common guy height) but have been the more slender of us always.
I’d be satisfied if women got to openly sexualize men and talk about it. That would level out the playing field and, hopefully, reduce the unnecessary sexualizing of trivial things.
Do you have sisters? Do you ever go to the beach? No, it’s really not normal to find yourself reduced to base sexual impulses, and type them out on your computer just because you can see someone’s body.
Technically evolution is an emergent phenomenon from the reproduction of organisms. If you were to clone yourself with slight mutations it would still allow evolution to happen with zero inherent need for sex or sexuality whatsoever
Regardless of that, sexualizing women typically leads one to be an incel not a successfully mating male which means it would be the opposite of evolution by your reasoning.
It’s also interesting that your premise is generic but your conclusion is specific. “Sex is to be encouraged for evolution; that’s why we should sexualize women specifically” If you aren’t a misogynist, you might want to switch your TL;DR to “sexualize people” not specifically “women”
The secret lies in the balance - if i don’t sexualize women at least a little bit, i would probably don’t have a sexual preference for women.
The important thing is being able to keep it in check - I can talk with every woman without hitting on them, even if i might have sexual thoughts about them in secret, just like women will probably sexualize their preferred gender and still be able to behave decently towards men.
There’s a time and place for everything. If it were any other way, humanity would have probably died out by now - either by being primarily asexual or by being disgusted by the opposite sex and their inappropriate behavior.
P.S.: My hypothesis is that since most people are alone while posting, they are mentally in a space where such thoughts are not suppressed as much, which leads to a higher occurrence of horny remarks than in real life. A minuscule amount of people of those who can’t stop themselves from expressing their adoration of those legs would be like that when meeting her. And yes, those legs are sexy as hell, and i’m pretty sure she knows it, or this photo would not exist.
Sexualizing women does not “typically lead to being an incel”, that’s just crazy. Blaming women for failure to succeed in finding a sexual partner is what leads to that.
It’s not inherently bad to see people in a sexual light, what matters is when and how you act on those feelings, and respecting that people are also more than sexual objects.
It’s amazing how many hoops you’ll jump through to make a literal scientific fact sound bad but in any case I was obviously speaking in hyperbole to piss people off.
Please don’t give me new fetishes
do you know how hard it is to have a fetish for women being bigger and taller than you, when you are over 6 and a half feet tall?
😭
Very hard?
not as hard as he is right now.
Don’t know and don’t need to.
… and long…
Thats as much a fantasy as finding a 9 foot tall woman to pat me on the head and say she is proud of me.
Yeah. Good luck finding a woman that is proud of you
There is a lot to unpack in that sentence.
I am an entire warehouse, filled with pods, which themselves are full of issues, trauma, and baggage.
and I have had 2 therapists be completely dumbfounded and shocked at how well adjusted I am for all of it, lol.
its rarely a good thing when you shock a therapist.
We all are, to varying degrees. Some are just more aware of it than others.
But I didn’t approach your last remark by the harsher side. All the images coming to mind as I read it were censorable out of being plain stupid and childish.
Therapists can easily suffer of professional bias. I’ve done therapy as well and it came to a point when I felt my therapists were overly concerned and trying to victimize me. It is their role to help us be aware of things that may be lacking or holding us back but their trainning can make them view things as so damaging that a person being to cope and manage trauma by themselves and lead a somewhat balanced life is an impossible concept.
Yeah dont tell me im six foot which is the average where i live but women are just so much shorter… for me it actually helps that im 100kg with a pretty muscular build because I only care abou the height and from my experience taller women tend to like wider men. Idk. Still its hard out here lol
That’s a funny comment, but yeah - I’m the average height of men in my area, and like to be outmassed. I do like guys to be bigger than me in some dimension, and it hasn’t ever been height (tall guys here all seem to date short women). I have been about the same height as the guys of all my 3 serious relationships (not unusual since that’s the most common guy height) but have been the more slender of us always.
I wonder if we will ever evolve to the point where we can talk about women online without some mad lad needing to sexualise them.
Oh noes! They’re talking about s-e-x? Gross! We’re not supposed to talk about that! That’s naughty - we should be reading our bibles instead!
That’s awfully presumptuous of you, perhaps the comment was made by a woman who is sexualizing short men
I’d be satisfied if women got to openly sexualize men and talk about it. That would level out the playing field and, hopefully, reduce the unnecessary sexualizing of trivial things.
As a man, I’d be all about this
She would have to put pants on, at least.
So when you go to the beach, you are purving on every woman in a swimsuit or bikini?
Also yes.
Yes
You are telling me that a woman practically naked from waist below is not sexual? You might be gay.
Do you have sisters? Do you ever go to the beach? No, it’s really not normal to find yourself reduced to base sexual impulses, and type them out on your computer just because you can see someone’s body.
Yes, I am sane enough to not have sexual urges about relatives. Everyone else is fair game.
It’s athletic long legs. Chill, person, it’s absolutely partnof human nature and not disrespectful in any way to appreciate that that is sexy.
That is literally the opposite of evolution, we evolve to procreate that means more sex and sexualizing.
TLDR: if you don’t sexualize women on the Internet you are an affront to evolution and a sin against nature.
Unfortunately for your genes, attitudes like these will mean they don’t have much chance of spreading.
Technically evolution is an emergent phenomenon from the reproduction of organisms. If you were to clone yourself with slight mutations it would still allow evolution to happen with zero inherent need for sex or sexuality whatsoever
Regardless of that, sexualizing women typically leads one to be an incel not a successfully mating male which means it would be the opposite of evolution by your reasoning.
It’s also interesting that your premise is generic but your conclusion is specific. “Sex is to be encouraged for evolution; that’s why we should sexualize women specifically” If you aren’t a misogynist, you might want to switch your TL;DR to “sexualize people” not specifically “women”
The secret lies in the balance - if i don’t sexualize women at least a little bit, i would probably don’t have a sexual preference for women.
The important thing is being able to keep it in check - I can talk with every woman without hitting on them, even if i might have sexual thoughts about them in secret, just like women will probably sexualize their preferred gender and still be able to behave decently towards men.
There’s a time and place for everything. If it were any other way, humanity would have probably died out by now - either by being primarily asexual or by being disgusted by the opposite sex and their inappropriate behavior.
P.S.: My hypothesis is that since most people are alone while posting, they are mentally in a space where such thoughts are not suppressed as much, which leads to a higher occurrence of horny remarks than in real life. A minuscule amount of people of those who can’t stop themselves from expressing their adoration of those legs would be like that when meeting her. And yes, those legs are sexy as hell, and i’m pretty sure she knows it, or this photo would not exist.
Sexualizing women does not “typically lead to being an incel”, that’s just crazy. Blaming women for failure to succeed in finding a sexual partner is what leads to that.
It’s not inherently bad to see people in a sexual light, what matters is when and how you act on those feelings, and respecting that people are also more than sexual objects.
It’s amazing how many hoops you’ll jump through to make a literal scientific fact sound bad but in any case I was obviously speaking in hyperbole to piss people off.
Too late