Have we really become so unempathetic as a society that the act of putting yourself in others’ shoes is unbelievable to the point that people assume you must be part of the group you’re defending? So I often see people being unfairly discriminatory and mean to certain types, attributes or qualities of people, which I know some would be offended and hurt by. But whenever I stick up for them, I get comments like this: “Tell me you’re x without telling me you’re x”. “F*** off, x”. A good example is gay people or trans people. I get heavily criticised for defending them and people immediately assume that I’m gay or trans just because I’m expressing that I empathise with how they’re treated in society and think people should be kinder toward them. There are lots of other examples but I’m worried I’ll be antagonised here just by saying them, so I picked some slightly more socially acceptable ones (yes there are some far less socially acceptable things than LGBT these days, in my experience, despite the rampant LGBTphobia).

  • @andrewta@lemmy.world
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    71 year ago

    What you do is up to you. For me : I run like hell from people like that. If I have to talk to them during work it’s ONLY about work related material.

    • Wrench Wizard
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      31 year ago

      Yeah that’s good advice kind internet stranger and how I operate with many people. I give this person a little more tolerance because I genuinely believe he’s just never developed the skill of listening. It’s actually surprisingly common in my experience with guys from his generation.