The word “narc” is a slur, that almost always marks out the user as a self-identifying “victim of narcissistic abuse”. It implies a number of incorrect generalizations that have already unfolded quite neatly in this thread. It has definitely become a negative term.
Personally, I would ban all victim lingo. People on “narc abuse” subs use this language to create/enhance their group identity, which is based on a number of incorrect assumptions; “I got really hurt, so my partner is deffo a narcissist”, “all people with NPD, or any degree of narcissism are monsters”, “self-aware narcissists don’t exist”, “all of them are abusers”, just to mention a few.
We are not allowed to post on those subs. I have never met any of those people, certainly never abused any of them, yet if I post in their space, I will get banned instantly, based on the fact that I have a certain personality disorder. There is a very good reason for that; god forbid that a Narcissistic person genuinely interested in dialogue would burst their bubble, disrupt the story they tell each other.
Yet they are free to post on subs that were created to support Narcissists; free to throw about their negative assumptions, demand explanations for their woes, or downright insult us.
I do not enjoy being a punchbag for “victims”, so I would see these discrepancies addressed, and limiting the use of the word “narc” to an appropriate context would be a welcome step in that direction.
Some people saying not to use mental disorders as insults:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/drawing-the-curtains-back/202204/narcissism-considered-diagnosis-or-easy-insult
https://www.reddit.com/r/narcissism/comments/hiyfu4/is_narc_a_negative_term_do_we_think_its/fwk18hj/
https://www.reddit.com/r/Negareddit/comments/5lyldh/using_narcissist_as_an_insult_is_ableist/
https://www.reddit.com/r/NPD_Memes/comments/15tirjm/dont_let_anyone_gaslight_you_into_thinking_they/
And some fascists complaining they were called out:
https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/comments/a8zfg3/is_narc_a_slur/
https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/nb2co7/ive_been_accused_of_being_ableist_prejudiced/
I said slur not insult.
Second link in the list.
But op didn’t use the word ‘narc’. I have used that used like a slur, but I thought it referred to people who did narcotic drugs.
Also, do you know which of your three categories that user falls into?
Narc means snitch where I’m from.
Fine, number 4 is precisely literally what you are asking. Can’t copy paste it as it’s an image.
Reddit doesn’t let me see that one without the app.
Try this: https://old.reddit.com/r/NPD_Memes/comments/15tirjm/dont_let_anyone_gaslight_you_into_thinking_they/