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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Deep-Permit-6037 on 2023-08-01 02:05:11.

I (44F) have a daughter (18F) and a son (15M). My daughter was “scouted” by a modeling agency when she was 15. Since then, she has been doing modeling jobs, including local ads and even fashion shows. She has walked in shows in New York and Paris. The money is minimal, but my husband and I put it all into a savings account for her college tuition.

When she was a kid, she always wanted to be a software developer like her dad. She had stellar grades in high school math, physics and in April was accepted into a prestigious computer science undergraduate program at a great university.

We were all overjoyed for her. She accepted the offer and everything. Today, she told me and my husband that she wanted to defer admission for a year and “focus on modeling”. Her agency has been pressuring her to relocate to New York City because there are more opportunities/jobs there.

I was adamant that she enter school in September instead of moving to NYC to model. I told her she would be wasting a year of her life when she could be spending her time getting her degree. She argued with us further and said that now she’s 18, she will use her savings to move to New York. I told her those savings were for her college tuition, not for her to waste paying thousands in rent and accomplishing nothing. She said “Its not like you guys can’t afford to pay for my tuition yourselves.”

My husband thinks we should let her do it, and start school next year. I am strictly against it. I think it will be a waste of her life and most importantly, I will worry for her safety. She is 18 but still so naive.

AITA for putting my foot down on this matter?

  • @UltimateUsermaimEnglish
    2•1 year ago

    My concern is that some modelling agency disguise themselves as so when they’re actually doing porn.

    Don’t stress too much about losing 1 year at 18. I think kids don’t know what they wanted to do and just follow in on what’s around them. I grew up in an oil and gas town so all I knew was to be an engineer like my dad. Turns out there’s so much more out there when I move away.

    Whichever option you choose. Make sure that you as the adult knows what she’s getting herself into.