Summary

Jocelynn Rojo Carranza, an 11-year-old girl from Gainesville, Texas, died by suicide after enduring months of bullying over her family’s immigration status.

Classmates allegedly mocked her and threatened to report her family to ICE. The school was aware of the bullying but failed to notify Carranza’s family.

Her mother, Marbella Carranza, only learned of the harassment after her daughter’s death and is now working with investigators and the school to understand what happened and why she was not notified.

  • @ChexMax@lemmy.world
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    “It [the bullying] had gotten so aggressive, Carranza was meeting with a school counselor multiple times a week. Her family, however, was never notified.”

    What the literal fuck. The bullies said the bullying wouldn’t ease up until her family got deported. She was meeting with the school counselor several times a week and the school didn’t separate the bullies out? They didn’t notify the parents? I hope people are held personally liable. Your beloved little girl taking her own life is an unimaginable tragedy.

    The president is setting such a shameful example.

    • @disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world
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      That’s what hit me the hardest too. This was completely preventable. The lack of response by the school is even more to blame than the bullies. The knot in my stomach wants to deck that school counselor.

      • @ChexMax@lemmy.world
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        I agree that the adults here are the most responsible, but I hope those kids understand the gravity of what they’ve done.

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          They may not at 11 years old, but this is the sort of thing that sticks with you. We can only hope this teaches them empathy rather than fueling more of this sociopathic behavior they’re likely emulating from their parents.

        • FuglyDuck
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          3324 days ago

          I hope that the family of Jocelyn files numerous wrongful death lawsuits. The school failed. the bullies and their parents failed.

          It’s probably exactly zero consolation, but damn.

        • @Mac@mander.xyz
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          I hope it haunts them deep in their core for the rest of their lives and they live deep in moral debt in a futile attempt to break-even but simultaneously knowing they never will.

          • @explodicle@sh.itjust.works
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            324 days ago

            Whether this “breaks even” is a trolley problem, but it’s pretty easy to save lives. Just donate blood, mosquito nets, and vaccinations. It’s just paralyzing because you can’t save everyone.

      • Maeve
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        I was thinking she can’t even sue, without risking her own precarious safety.

        • @Kalysta@lemm.ee
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          224 days ago

          Do we even know that her mother is here illegally? The article doesn’t mention and kids are assholes.

    • @Seleni@lemmy.world
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      Even in my time the person who reported the bullying was treated worse than the bullies, and I’ve been out of school for a while. From what I’ve heard, it’s been getting much worse.

      • @Saleh@feddit.org
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        Seriously, the only way to defend yourself against bullying is to beat the crap out of the bully. And you will get repercussions for it, but the bully will think twice next time.

        • @spooky2092@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          724 days ago

          10000%

          I was bullied for a long while in school, and much like this girl, went to school officials multiple times with no improvement (likely because one of the bullies had family in the school office). Nothing was done about the bullying until after I took matters into my own hands on multiple occasions.

          I still vividly remember when I broke the nose of the office shithead and got called into the principal’s office and threatened with a long out of school suspension, only to get 0 consequences after my grandfather came in and told to principal that he would do no such thing, or there would be a LONG discussion with the local school board (he was a well known person in the community) about how he did fuck all about abuse in his school after repeated notifications and only tried to punish the victim after they defended themselves

          I really enjoyed throwing that back in the bully’s face whenever he started his shit again, but looking back my grandfather basically cosigned the principal’s shitty behavior by not making that fucker pay for the shitty decisions he made.

    • @Sanguine@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      2224 days ago

      Yet they pass these laws forcing teachers to rat on trans kids. Bet if this poor kid went by Carlos instead of Carranza they would have called right away!

      These motherfuckers.

    • @ehpolitical@lemmy.ca
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      1324 days ago

      He’s setting a shameful example while feeling shameless, that’s the part that boggles my mind… like the one day he signed more of his ‘executive orders’, upsetting who knows how many people’s lives again, then hopped away afterwards to go golfing.

    • @Kalysta@lemm.ee
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      I hope the school is sued into bankruptcy. And that all the bullies are suspended indefinately. Why didn’t the councilor call the parents?

    • @null_dot@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      Yeah I’m kinda speechless. It doesn’t bear thinking about but I kinda wonder how aware she was of the consequences of what she was doing.

          • odd
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            Okay hear me out. I give this one single try. If you do not take your time to think about this and double down on your ignorance I will not further engage.

            A little girl has been bullied to a point where she saw no other option than ending her own life. This is huge. It’s one of our must fundamental instincts.

            She was murdered. By her bullies, by the system, by everyone who enabled this to happen. She was murdered.

            Questioning whether she was fully aware of the consequences shifts the blame from the offenders to her. You imply an overreaction. You imply that the griev, drama, and negative emotions are in no relation to what she has been through. You question whether she has reached out for help enough. You question whether she tried.

            Rest assured: she did. https://iris.who.int/bitstream/handle/10665/341671/9789290228578-eng.pdf?sequence=1

            • @null_dot@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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              -124 days ago

              I don’t really care whether you engage.

              It’s an absurdity to suggest that my comment shifts blame to an 11 year old victim.

              Sure ok maybe some asshole Alex Jones type might try to say she over reacted, and they might do that by undermining her agency.

              That doesn’t mean that someone wondering about what an 11 year old’s understanding of suicide might be, is doing anything other than grieving for our collective loss of innocence.

              It’s a perfectly reasonable thing to wonder in trying to process the death of someone so young.

        • @saltesc@lemmy.world
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          Blame?

          I kinda wonder how aware she was of the consequences of what she was doing.

          That’s not blame.

          That’s a perfectly normal thing to wonder.

          1. Was the bullying so bad it caused 12 year old suicide?
          2. Or being 11, did they have a fully comprehensive understanding of what suicide is?

          These are both very plausible and terrible things.

          No 'blame" in there. Get off that soapbox and back onto earth.

          • @pyre@lemmy.world
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            1. yes, it was? because it did? i don’t understand what part of this you’re still wondering about. it already happened.
            2. no one does. what is “fully comprehensive” anyway? like how far does it go? no one can tell what the full ramifications of a suicide can be. doesn’t matter the age. if the question is about whether or not they know about what death is, then yes they know. an 11 year old isn’t a baby.
            3. soap boxes aren’t that tall. no matter where you find them, you can be sure they’re squarely on earth.
            • @null_dot@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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              024 days ago

              if the question is about whether or not they know about what death is, then yes they know

              It’s not that simple though is it.

              An 11 year old can probably explain what death means, but not really understand the permanence or significance of the event especially in the context of the transience of bullying.

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                I don’t think you’ve met an 11 year old or maybe even been one. they understand it as much as anyone in that situation would. point being no one in that situation fully does. that’s not the state of mind that typically leads to suicide.

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        She was fucking 11, you dumbass.

        • @null_dot@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          Sorry I don’t really understand what’s so dumb about this question.

          If she actually intended suicide (which we don’t know), then to what extent did she understand the permanence of death in the context of the transience of feelings.

          • @Goodmorningsunshine@lemmy.world
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            What you’re failing to understand is that you’re being an insufferable twat. Do you ask this about adults, too? There are very few people pushed to suicide who consider how transient feelings are, and that’s hardly the point here. You don’t have to face tragedy with obnoxiousness.

      • @Resonosity@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        Oh you’re asking if she could relatively conceive of what life would be like without her in it, especially to her family and friends. If she had that level of mindfulness and could pre-meditate the consequences.

        I mean, she was 11. And even fully grown adults can barely know what the consequences of their actions will be, so I doubt this was ever something considered.

        It was probably a combination of short-term pain felt by herself and shame felt towards her family that led to the breaking point. Makes me dissociate just thinking about this story

        • @Kalysta@lemm.ee
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          What the OP doesn’t realize is that if one is at the point of suicide, the loss to their family and friends doesn’t even cross their minds no matter the age.

          All they can think of is ending the pain. Doesn’t matter if you’re 11 or 30.

          The comment is stupid and clearly OP has never spoken with a suicidal person before. All they’re doing is victim blaming.

      • @Kalysta@lemm.ee
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        I promise you, at 11 you know what death is. And it’s the ADULTS responsibility to protect you anyway. Why are you blaming the victim?

    • @Deceptichum@quokk.au
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      MAGA are all about keeping the children unsafe.

      There’s no greater threat to a child than a Trump supporter.

  • The US regime believes in notifying parents, irrespective of the possible harm, if their child might be gay or trans but won’t bother with bullying so severe it leads to suicide. The US is fucked.

  • @kava@lemmy.world
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    I grew up illegal in the US. I was brought on a travel visa at the age of 5 and it wasn’t until my mid 20s that I became a citizen.

    I vividly remember being in elementary school, around her age, in music class where we were learning the national anthem. The entire class would stand up and we should sing “I’m proud to be an American” and I remember silently crying as I stood up and sang the song.

    I cried because I understood even at that age that I was not an American. I was part of everything while simultaneously always being detached from everything. Never fitting in, but pretending to. I think long-term it created a strange sense of detachment from society. This shit fucks you up and it’s heavy stuff for a child to process. It wasn’t until my adulthood that I really started to understand and internalize a positive narrative from my upbringing. An 11 year old child does not have the capacity to process this.

    And I’m in my 30s now- I grew up illegal before social media and before this xenophobic outburst started circa 2016. I’d imagine it’s so much worse today.

    I feel for this little girl. I feel for all the children in the country who’s only crime was existing. Obama, while famously being the deporter-in-chief (both Obama terms aw more deported than Trump’s first term), at least did offer DACA as an executive order for these children.

    Really, I think you can tell the state of a society by how they treat the vulnerable. And the US is getting increasingly brutal and cruel. We’re in for a wild fascist ride, comrades. It’s only just begun.

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      Wanting to reaffirm that no matter what anyone says you’re just as valued and important as anyone else in this country.

      I hope that one day our society and law will accurately reflect reality.

      Wishing the same for my family and friends who bear the same burdens. It’s very depressing our world is still caught up in racial problems and not important problems like food and shelter.

  • FuglyDuck
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    5624 days ago

    “failed”.

    What are the chances they just ignored it, intentionally?

    • @grue@lemmy.world
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      I’m willing to bet that’s exactly what happened. Dollars to doughnuts these were MAGA bullies at a MAGA school with MAGA teachers/“leadership” and the adults either tacitly endorsed the bullying or participated in it themselves. They’re probably glad that she’s dead and (privately, if not publicly) laughing about it because it’s one less “illegal [pejorative]” polluting their white community. I genuinely think we’re at that level of near-genocidal dehumanization at this point.

      • FuglyDuck
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        Exactly. And it is Texas we’re talking about here.

    • Arghblarg
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      Oh but being Texas they sure as F would’ve told her parents if she was expressing gender dysphoria right? Ye gods what a dumpster fire of a society.

      • The only reason any of those teachers even wanted her to get older was so they could tell the authorities if she ever missed a period. They’re an unsalvageable species in Texas.

  • @boonhet@lemm.ee
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    Unfortunately, that’s mission accomplished for team red, as that’s one fewer brown person growing up to take yer jerbs.

    This was not a suicide. The Trump regime and her classmates murdered her.

    • @Snowclone@lemmy.world
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      They’re celebrating. This is what they want. They want all Hispanic people gone. They never cared about immigration or legal status, they hate Hispanics and they want them all gone, and children are the Hispanics they hate the most. I don’t know if you’ve ever really listened to their rhetoric, but ‘‘I drove by a school and all the kids were Mexicans’’ is a BIG taking point on the right and has been for decades. They want out kids gone by any means.

      • @Phoenicianpirate@lemm.ee
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        I never understood them. The American Southwest always had a very large hispanic population… I mean they were there before settlers from the US came along, even racist cartoons from the 1890s and 1900s showed hispanic looking people as being part of the culture there.

      • I know, just around me that they can look at their black ass, hateful souls, “read” the new testament, and mental gymnastic themselves into believing they good, upstanding Christians.

  • @CallMeButtLove@lemmy.world
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    2324 days ago

    Rage. This is so incredibly tragic. I’m sitting here at 6:45 AM just crying when I should be getting ready for work. This is the type of world they’re trying to build.

      • @HasturInYellow@lemmy.world
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        And those responsible must not be allowed to reenter society and be forgotten. They cannot be simply ignored anymore. Fuck all of them and anyone who would support this. I wish we had the time as a society or as a planet for more options, but the clock is ticking.