• @freeusething@lemmynsfw.com
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      3 days ago

      I did it for a while. It felt very good at the time, but it quickly escalated into something dangerous and abusive. Some of the most exciting and erotic experiences of my life - being a footstool, sleeping in a dog cage, wearing a permanently locked collar, having a contract, being on the verge of orgasm from just being made to mop floors and follow rules - but tied to an absolutely brutal “drop” when the whole thing was abruptly ended. Realizing that the person I served had always deeply hated me and was actually exploiting me was a hella of a mind fuck.

      It still deeply appeals to me, but the fallout when it ended was very difficult. Going from a few years of that mind state rapidly back to “normal” life was extraordinarily difficult, and there wasn’t really a “script” for getting my life back on track afterwards.

        • @PrettyFlyForAPornGuy@lemmynsfw.comOP
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          13 days ago

          service can be as simple as running someone a bath, cooking a dinner, massaging a back.

          you don’t have don a gimp suit with an inverted strapon to “serve” someone you love

          • MaybeALittleBitWeird
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            33 days ago

            Yes, I’m actually serviced oriented as a sub so I’m well aware. I have a partner who is vanilla and not dominant in the slightest. It’s not exactly possible to be in a committed relationship and “serve” someone else full time.

            • Lightor
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              23 days ago

              I’m dom and my wife is switch. I think the best way is to have sessions or days set aside for it. Lifestyle dom/sub can be hot but like most things you gotta give it breaks to keep it fresh. Just gives room to try other things.