Tentacle porn where I’m the one with tentacles.
how many? you want to be an octopus? a dectopus? a hexapus?
Probably between 4 and 8. Too many and it would be too much to keep track of.
I’ve always wanted to be blindfolded and sort of “passed around” at a party giving oral to women. Kind of like a freeuse thing
An all you can eat buffet
I like to image I’m a girl
Don’t let your dreams be dreams, girl!
if you’re in a firly liberal place you can be
Getting fucked strapped down to a guillotine (with a line of guys especially) or with a gun to my head.
Snuff is really difficult for people to understand. I like being alive, but the idea that a guy could treat me as completely disposable is exhilarating. I’m fairly extreme on the masochism/submissive side of things, the challenge is always finding guys who are safe with those extreme kinks.
I’ve got a regular I had a really great time with recently - put a belt around my neck before he walked in, let him talk about how far he could go (while not actually pulling hard - breath play is always dangerous…)
Being passed around at a party and thrown into a dumpster afterwords is another of those “probably impossible” fantasies.
I’ve heard of setups where a guillotine has been constructed with a bar across the bottom behind where the neck would go so that when the moment is right, i assume when one or both of you are cumming, your partner can pull the lever and you get a nice satisfying thud as the blade hits the bottom.
Danger in general is sexy time spice, my gf is VERY into hard choking. We’ve had to tone it down a bit as we’ve become more experienced with it though
I talked to a guy online once about a similar set up - I’m honestly considering taking a furniture making class to make my dreams come true there. Or convincing one of my regulars to make one for me.
Hard choking is something I’ve done - I got scared when my ex choked someone else unconscious on accident and almost killed them, so I’m a little reluctant to go for it now. It does feel so amazing though - the only time I’ve ever came from penetration was being strangled and beat on a fucking machine. I know that I would totally let a guy off me in the moment because it’s like nothing else 😅
If you know someone in woodworking then go for it. just make sure you test it thoroughly before you stick your head in it.
I choked her unconscious accidentally once during sex while she was on top of me, let go the second she went limp and she came around momentarily. We both agreed it was deeply hot but would be a bad idea to do again. It’s a shame there’s no real safe way of doing it.
My wife dominates me on occasion, I’m kinda half into it. But I would like her to force me to serve a trans domme. In her presence.
does she know about this?
Maybe she could use a strapon on you
Haha I can’t believe I admitted to this 😂 clean forgot that I posted that comment. Was on the stripes.
Basement slave, where I’m chained in a basement and be whipped, spanked, slapped and lightly beated etc.
Ah, the fantasy that made me realise i was into kink.
Except i was the one keeping the slave, not the one being the slave
I know this is very vanilla (which I am not) but a threesome probably.
I have plenty of kinks that I have tried because I talk to my partner openly and they are very supportive and open minded.
But I only enjoy sex with people that I have a deep connection with and I am strictly monogamous (nothing against other options, just too mentally draining for me to love multiple people) so I can’t really see a situation where I would have two people I have a deep connection with that is sexual, or a partner and a friend I am willing to have sex with, since I don’t have many friends and I wouldn’t want to complicate things by adding sex.
One possible option might be if my partner had a someone they really wanted to add and I would go with it, but I doubt I would enjoy it too much, probably just do it for my partner.
Maybe you should get a couples profile on fet. if you can build a friendship with someone or a group of people with a view to maybe eventually including them in your activities with your partner then you don’t run the risk of ruining an existing friendship.
Have a bunch of sexual slaves at my disposal. Have used it as inspiration and as fantasy many times, but I think in real life I would have a hard time being dominant. Also in our relationship we are both quite dominant and neither would ever be the sub, so that won’t be doable even in the sense of just one slave, let alone a few.
Maybe you should find a sub to share.
I like the idea of a slave/slaves but i imagine it would end up being a lot of work
Yeah, I’ve considered the idea of looking for a sub for both of us, but it has never really been a priority and my partner is quite vanilla all things considered, but at least we agree that if it would ever happen it would be a woman as she is at least sexually bi.
While I consider myself more on the dom side, I’ve never experienced much on it so it feels daunting to have someone trust you that way but also depend on you. It is a mental barrier that would block me I’m afraid if I tried it. And as you put it, also a lot of work. For the moment, I’m OK leaving it as fantasy, not all fantasies need to be achieved :)
I’m straight and subbing for a couple is the only way I’d enjoy lady-sex, maybe you really should try it, it would be fun I bet. Also you don’t need to be bi to enjoy domming a man together. Especially someone who might enjoy humiliation.
@RBWellsV23 @evil_mal would you be agnostic about which member of the couple has control, or the hierarchy between the three of you? For example, would you enjoy being required to pleasure her more if it was at his insistence?
I very much respond more to guy doms. Would enjoy a couple sort of ganging up on me though, and can’t be the only straight lady who feels like that. So either one I think, just be a toy to use for awhile, right? I don’t have to enjoy all of it sexually to enjoy the whole experience.
I think they should try it, that it would probably be more fun & less work than they think. Really, you can always do stuff like watch a movie together and make her serve, not let her on the couch, right? It doesn’t have to be a just a marathon sex thing. Treat her like a pet or toy.
@RBWellsV23 it absolutely doesn’t have to be all overtly sexual. Underlying servitude and humiliation, being a toy, is always sexuality: if they own you then they also own your sex and just the implicit understanding that they could choose to use you sexually as they please is enough to charge the atmosphere and the dynamic.
You could just be their footstool, you could be exposed, you could be subject to impromptu wetness checks, you could just be their house girl. The effect is the same
Providing value to a community that I value. Either that or having enough money and time to be happy. That would really get me off.
i’m imagining you trying not to jizz while ringing a tea set up for some old lady in a charity shop
Thank you, come again!
Small opportunities to volunteer make a big difference — even just picking up the litter on your block.
Pegging a man
You’d be surprised at how more guys are getting open to the idea of at least giving it a go, if not making it a commonplace activity
I love this and support it 100%
can you sell the idea to my gf please?
I’d let you if you can somehow pull it off with only your natural equipment (pussy)
@Earthtopidge should be easily achievable, and oh so satisfying once you’re plowing him, he’s going wild for it, and you’re all power crazed as you see the effect you’re having on him!
I wanna be the gorilla who gets to beat off 100 men.
big hands… i bet it would be scary being the dude
When you’re actually pretty big but their hands make it look microscopic.
There’s always a bigger fist
I endorse this message
Being a lifestyle sub/slave for someone.
I did it for a while. It felt very good at the time, but it quickly escalated into something dangerous and abusive. Some of the most exciting and erotic experiences of my life - being a footstool, sleeping in a dog cage, wearing a permanently locked collar, having a contract, being on the verge of orgasm from just being made to mop floors and follow rules - but tied to an absolutely brutal “drop” when the whole thing was abruptly ended. Realizing that the person I served had always deeply hated me and was actually exploiting me was a hella of a mind fuck.
It still deeply appeals to me, but the fallout when it ended was very difficult. Going from a few years of that mind state rapidly back to “normal” life was extraordinarily difficult, and there wasn’t really a “script” for getting my life back on track afterwards.
I’m sorry you went through that. Thank you for sharing.
Depends on what kind of lifestyle i guess
Well it’s not really compatible with being in a vanilla relationship unfortunately 😅
service can be as simple as running someone a bath, cooking a dinner, massaging a back.
you don’t have don a gimp suit with an inverted strapon to “serve” someone you love
Yes, I’m actually serviced oriented as a sub so I’m well aware. I have a partner who is vanilla and not dominant in the slightest. It’s not exactly possible to be in a committed relationship and “serve” someone else full time.
I’m dom and my wife is switch. I think the best way is to have sessions or days set aside for it. Lifestyle dom/sub can be hot but like most things you gotta give it breaks to keep it fresh. Just gives room to try other things.
Eating pussy while fucking in a MFF threesome. I’m married, so it’ll probably never happen lol.
You never know. My wife and I have been married for 20 years, and we get up to some wild shit. Just depends on the relationship. I wouldn’t have thought we would even five years ago, but we have firm boundaries, and the timing was right to start branching out.
Might never happen. Might turn out that she takes mushrooms once and decides she wants to know what it’s like. Happened to me, lol.
I promise I mean this sincerely, zero sarcasm, but a 20 year marriage where you’re doing mushrooms together and still have fulfilling new sexual experiences sounds like an ideal modern love story. Sounds like you’ve got it good mate, good on you and yours.
Yeah, it’s been pretty great, frankly. I used to do a fair variety of drugs, nothing too serious, but she never did. She once asked me what mushrooms were like, and I was like, “Why not find out for yourself?” so I grew up a batch after a shit ton of trial and error, lol.
She’s my best friend, but it takes so much work. Everybody scoffs at how often, “communication” is bandied about as the key to a relationship, but yeah, it’s that.
I’d watch a poly romcom starring a married couple
Oh, the mushrooms should’ve done something by now, if that’d be her thing! We just tripped over and a half week ago. She’s also demisexual, so that’d make things a bit harder for her. But fingers crossed!!
That’s what the, “friend” part of FWB is for. That’s how we did it. My wife isn’t demi, but she finds it hard (if not impossible) to get off with a stranger. It’s an anxiety thing.
What we did is, we looked around for friends, people we liked and enjoyed being around. No pressure, just if it happened, it happened. And eventually we found people we vibed with.
I’m not saying it works for everyone, but with zero pressure on all sides, it did for us.
Kn a similar vein I want to try double vaginal penetration. I imagine you’d be getting pleasure from the other penis rubbing against yours and the vagina.
My partner is very open to trying many things. And has talked about trying mmf, but it is also a tight fit. Just me is a struggle to get in without discomfort sometimes
I have done DP, not DVP, and I like it when the guy in my ass is still, the one in my pussy moving, and I will tell you, the guy in my ass has cum from that. They can feel it! Maybe try that? I haven’t wanted to try DVP, the DP is difficult enough to set up, and think it would just hurt, and if the guys wrapped, too much chance of condom failure.
Maybe explore with some progressively larger toys before jumping in at the deep end with another dude
Maybe your wife is secretly bi?
I want to feel attractive to somebody I’m attracted to. The hair-twirling, blushing, lip-biting, giggling, restless-foot kind of attraction. It can feel euphoric just talking and flirting with a woman, even when there’s no romantic prospect, so I think that would be a stratospheric experience. But I was never that kind of attractive even when I was young, and now I’m old, so I doubt it’ll ever happen.
if you know what it feels like to flirt with a women then you almost certainly have been seen as attractive in the eyes of the people you were flirting with.
You might not see it when you look in the mirror but beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Yes and no. People flirt for many reasons, not always with sexual intent. One recent example that I can think of is the server when I went out to breakfast with friends recently. It’s partly her personality (we’d met before), and partly doing good customer service. But I get what you mean. Thank you for the affirmation!
You are a guy? And straight? I’m a lady, and honestly it’s not looks, it’s a look, if that makes sense - you only have to be acceptable looking to be attractive like that. The only guys that have got me flirty that way, none of them were particularly good looking. It was the way they looked at me that set it off. I knew it didn’t need to go anywhere, it’s just fun sometimes.
I do understand why you would want that, it’s very validating feeling. Even though superficial and light.
Yes, I’m a straight, cis man. It makes sense, and I’ve heard the similar sentiment, “just be confident,” before. I believe it, and it’s not surprising to me that I wouldn’t have “the look.” (Long story.) I’d love to hear specifics, because nobody has been able to explain what being confident actually means in practice, and I’ve spent more than 25 years now trying to figure it out. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve thought I’d cracked the code, only to fail again.
Honestly, though, based on my experience I feel that physical looks still have a lot to do with it.
Hey, I am relatively young, so take this as the experience with the appropriated doubt.
Confidence will betray you if you aren’t confident. If you think that you are a man not better or worse than others with a partner, then maybe it is difficult to find confidence in that. But that is why you have to do what we all are doing … Look at the things that you are better at than most.
Personally, I know a fair bit about computers. So I take pride in that. Sure, others are probably better at it than me but I am better than most.
Now, being good with computers and knowing a lot about them is generally not what people want to talk about. But that is the neat thing… You don’t have to. I know that I am. I communicate that I am and tell them that I am open to talk about it but as usually people aren’t into it, I won’t start that topic.
That means for me 2 things, 1. My selling point is not my confidence, skill or value. My selling point is me. Either they want me or they don’t. My value is outside anything and everything that they judge. I know my value. And they see it or they don’t. 2. I don’t need to show off what I am confident in.
Those 2 things give me confidence in dating. I don’t have confidence that they want to pull me into their bed. I have confidence in myself and my value.
My gf loves me. I don’t always understand why but she seems really committed. Something about me, that I don’t know and have no confidence in, she is in love with. But that is not an issue, I can love myself for reasons different to her reasons to love me.
Confidence is important because it changes how you behave. Behavior with confidence tend to be more honest in practice. You don’t overthink whether or not to text and ask them out. You aren’t scared of losing this opportunity and feel like a white lie to save the opportunity is worth it. It gives you the ability to communicate in certainty. You say what you mean. And an “I love you” is much more appealing when there is no doubt about the truth of it. Also if your plan is a long life together… Hiding doesn’t work for 20 years.
I get what you’re saying, but as a relentlessly intellectual person, I have to point out that it’s not one’s attitude or internal feeling that makes “confidence” a successful romantic strategy. To make this obvious, say, for example, I know who I am and what I want, and I know my value, and I go to a party and sit quietly in the corner waiting for everybody to recognize it. That actually might work for exceptionally physically-attractive people: “Ooh— who’s that mysterious stranger over there? I wanna find out more about him!” For most of us, it would result in being ignored or just left alone. It’s not enough to feel it, confidence must ultimately be performed somehow.
And, even when it’s performed, it depends a great deal on the other person’s perception. We can probably all think of examples of people who have unwarranted confidence in themselves, the people who know in their hearts with much conviction that they are the greatest, while the rest of us just see them as pathetic or annoying. In a romantic context, he’s the guy at the bar who just knows that the women want to sleep with him. If they do, we can say that he was confident. If they don’t, we can try to rationalize it by saying that he’s unattractive because he was actually deeply insecure and try-hard, but I think that’s just the No True Scotsman Fallacy.
That’s why I say that I think that attractiveness is actually an important root of romantic success. If you exceed the attractiveness bar (which, yes, doesn’t have to be that high), then “confidence” can be performed as aloofness (“he knows what he’s worth”), or as a very direct approach (“he knows what he wants”). If you don’t meet the standard, then an aloof attitude just means you blend into the background, and the direct approach means you’re the annoying guy at the bar.
If you know your worth and you want to meet people, you don’t sit in the corner waiting for someone to see it.
A confident person does what they believe will lead to success. They take their shot and they will miss more often than not, but they hit at times.
A confident person doesn’t care if people are weirdos about them taking a shot. Because they are confident enough to see that the weirdos are the ones that think it is weird to attempt for love.
Confidence is not being the loudest voice, and taking up space. Confidence is to accept disharmony, if they are right.
Yup, confidence is a performance, not a feeling.
Nah it is a feeling. It just impacts your behavior. Like fear impacts your behavior, or anger… Or hunger…
Competence is way more attractive than confidence. Guys who are good at something, that really is often so hot. Confidence can be attractive if it’s the kind that is not brash or cocky, some guys are just self-accepting in a way that lets them be accepting of other people, if that makes sense. That kind of confidence is comfortable, it puts people at ease.
Oh I completely agree! I think “competence” is a good source of confidence as it is so independent of so much other stuff. the brash or cocky level of confidence seems fake to me. So when I talk about confidence, I mean self-acceptance and self-appreciation.
First of all, there’s no “one size fits all” approach to flirting with women in my experience. So if things aren’t going well when talking with a woman, understand it might not be something you’re doing wrong, you may not be compatible with them.
If I had to describe confidence, I’d say it’s a quiet thing. It’s not loud and brash, bragging about your accomplishments or your belongings. It’s not the clothes you wear or how much you go to the gym (while these things can help you to feel more confident, they don’t create confidence that’s not there). Confidence is feeling comfortable with yourself, comfortable in your own skin. And here’s the weird part: confidence is letting go of the desire to be with the woman, and just letting the conversation go where it goes. By not focusing on your goal, you free yourself to enjoy the moment and you will find it so much easier to have that conversation.
space alien romance
First contact could be right around the corner.
get yourself some vulcanussy
Lol vulc-anussy
I guess that’s why they always look like they have a stick up their ass
