• @Doubletake2121@lemmy.world
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    93 days ago

    You never know. My wife and I have been married for 20 years, and we get up to some wild shit. Just depends on the relationship. I wouldn’t have thought we would even five years ago, but we have firm boundaries, and the timing was right to start branching out.

    Might never happen. Might turn out that she takes mushrooms once and decides she wants to know what it’s like. Happened to me, lol.

    • @pevrert@lemmynsfw.com
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      113 days ago

      I promise I mean this sincerely, zero sarcasm, but a 20 year marriage where you’re doing mushrooms together and still have fulfilling new sexual experiences sounds like an ideal modern love story. Sounds like you’ve got it good mate, good on you and yours.

      • @Doubletake2121@lemmy.world
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        63 days ago

        Yeah, it’s been pretty great, frankly. I used to do a fair variety of drugs, nothing too serious, but she never did. She once asked me what mushrooms were like, and I was like, “Why not find out for yourself?” so I grew up a batch after a shit ton of trial and error, lol.

        She’s my best friend, but it takes so much work. Everybody scoffs at how often, “communication” is bandied about as the key to a relationship, but yeah, it’s that.

      • Match!!
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        43 days ago

        I’d watch a poly romcom starring a married couple

    • @P1nkman@lemmy.world
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      63 days ago

      Oh, the mushrooms should’ve done something by now, if that’d be her thing! We just tripped over and a half week ago. She’s also demisexual, so that’d make things a bit harder for her. But fingers crossed!!

      • @Doubletake2121@lemmy.world
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        23 days ago

        That’s what the, “friend” part of FWB is for. That’s how we did it. My wife isn’t demi, but she finds it hard (if not impossible) to get off with a stranger. It’s an anxiety thing.

        What we did is, we looked around for friends, people we liked and enjoyed being around. No pressure, just if it happened, it happened. And eventually we found people we vibed with.

        I’m not saying it works for everyone, but with zero pressure on all sides, it did for us.