• 🍉 Albert 🍉
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      39 days ago

      I’m a man and I need a bro to explain me

      why are men attracted to younger women?

      I’m interested in women my age ± like 5 years ish.

      when I was a teen I was into teens, in my 20s I was into girls in their 20s…

      the idea of dating a 20 years old as a 36 year old man seems gross and annoying.

      • @Im_old@lemmy.world
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        29 days ago

        Because they don’t want to date (i. e. have some kind of personal engagement), they want to play nut and bolt.

          • @veni_vedi_veni@lemmy.world
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            19 days ago

            Apart from obvious attractiveness in younger adults, I’d probably chalk it up to societal norms (and maybe there’s an evolutionary component to it as well) for males’ perceived value on being the bread winner.

            So dating younger is how you ensure they are dependent on you, and thus fulfill your purpose as a man.

      • @PresidentCamacho@lemmy.ca
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        9 days ago

        So many mid responses to this question, so here is the actual answer.

        Men are raised to be more overtly sexual and have the most income (yes yes… my culture, my country, not worldwide, stfu we all know…) , because of this advertising has been focused on men while bombarding us with their image of perfect feminine beauty (which tends to be youthful qualities) to get us to focus on their products, seeing this your entire life you adopt that framework of what beauty is.

        Ultimately though its because the majority of the world are NPC’s following a script.

      • @Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works
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        -29 days ago

        Purely physically speaking, pretty much everyone gets less attractive as they get older.

        There is, of course, a maturity gap, which is a whole different problem.

    • @Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world
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      -19 days ago

      This post is pointing out that few men want to date ‘older’ women while men of all ages want to date younger women.

      It’s wild how discussing age and gender inequality in dating is considered misandry.

      • @Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        9 days ago

        I think its fair to say, myself included, many women want to date older men, not 20 years older, but at least a few. For me it was like 1-4 years older is good for me.

        Honestly when dating, I found better results not worrying so much about age, but rather where their standing was within siblings and family.

        As in, I am the eldest child, and my best relationships are with other eldest (or only) children. When I would date the youngest of a family, the dynamic was so different, and I could tell he was babied by his mom growing up, I unconsciously had less respect for him. I broke up with him when I realized it consciously. He ended up marrying a nice girl years later, I learned she’s also the youngest in her family, they match.

        I’m being so unserious, and I’ve had relationships not work out with other eldest sibling people, but it’s something I noticed when I was dating. I married an eldest child, and we’re peas in a fucking pod. It probably has something to do with they way our world view forms growing up in our familial hierarchy.