And to single nyets, are you in the “move-in together as soon as you can afford to” camp, or “delay it even when you already can coz reasons” camp?
Living habits play a huge role in cohabitating happily in the long term personally. Having fun and enjoying each other’s company won’t have much mileage if you can’t stand each other’s living habits!
For some, you may live together way longer than you’d be in love with each other even >.>
Sharing a home together also gives you an idea on how responsible, proactive, clean and how well they manage and balance chores, duties, and time together. In my (limited) experience, most people who has never lived on their own, generally do not take the initiative or have the know how to fix, improve and maintain a house. I suppose that’s not important for some… but for me who’s always taken care of her own space and prioritises on efficiency, I have my way of doing things and living together first can help us optimise ourselves to each other, or it can also highlight just how incompatible we might be. If anything, I’d say this is just as important to a relationship as any, if not the most.
So, for you non-single nyets: any inputs? How soon did you guys move in?
As a Malay I’m curious on how is it knowing your partner like living together only after marriage. Do some of them have second thoughts.
Also would prefer to move in together with my partner I think it is how you know the person more before marriage. As for how long before moving in, for me maybe after almost a year or after.
But if inviting over could happen much more earlier.
maybe try inviting over first to see if you like it?
i’ve had too many failed relationships and now i want to try out moving in with my current partner before getting married. not sure, just more risk-adverse now.
i have a Hong Kong couple friend, what they did was moving into a house, splitting the rent and sleep in separate rooms. my partner and I thought it was hilarious then it dawned on us that it’s the most genius thing and truly the best of both worlds cause you technically live with the partner but you also have your own space.