i am someone that demands a fair bit of personal and emotional space but even then I say good morning/night every single day to my partner. I only found out through this thread that people don’t do it and find it cringe and burdensome? never felt like a chore for me personally.

i also personally think “checking in” with your partner every couple days is too little, I might as well not be in a relationship… at one point you would be settling down with them and will have to tolerate their physical presence in your own space, ie. intimacy no? unless people don’t want a long term relationship? in that case i’m certain there’s more casual arrangement…? but with this kind of arrangement checking in is not needed methinks?

obviously go with your own flow, different people have different appetite and willingness when it comes to contacts, but i personally consider it as “wireless quality time”. The fact that we live apart, and only see each other 2-3 times per week, i deffo don’t mind spending less than a dozen minutes out of my day to text the other half. Sometimes it is the only “escape” i have from all the BS everyday life throw at me and for me that’s a peace of mind that i would rather sacrifice a dozen minutes of my time per day for