Where did I say you were a failure? I am just trying to help. But it seems, as angry as you come off on the internet, you are happy with all the things you listed as detrimental to having a partner, which is fine. It’s just so odd that someone so opposed to having a relationship because they are happy with they way they are would even get so involved in a discussion on relationships with no real experience on the topic.
Though I will say, that the fact that you don’t want to improve yourself at all would be a red flag against me dating you. I believe that we should strive to improve ourselves every day - to become better people than we were before - because when you stay the same, you stagnate, which is not beneficial to your health or mental wellbeing.
Anyway, have a great life, good luck! I hope you get everything you deserve in life! ✌️
You are a defeatist because you are unhappy and unwilling to do anything about it.
And that’s the last I’m saying. I just can’t bother with someone who wants to keep talking like the world is the way it is and there’s nothing you can do to change it.
There’s nothing that I can do about it dude. Is my reality and my soul, my nature. You just exist, i won’t change myself into something I don’t wanna be.
I have some advice for you, that I hope you can apply (if not-- oh well, advice is cheap). There are no hard rules to life. There is no way that men or women (or others) must be, simply because they are. There is no “average woman”. There is no such thing as being bound to one purpose, or one fate. Your life is the sum of your choices and the experiences that result from them; no more, no less. And if you’re in an environment (IRL or online) where this seems to be wrong-- everyone thinks in a way that you disagree with, or agrees that change or exception are not possible-- change your environment. Your brain is a machine that will offload any choices it can make whenever possible to be more efficient. Your environment is a powerful shortcut. Make sure that it’s working in your favor. I wish you luck in changing your fate.
Changing your environment is a middle class luxury, do you think poor people have the luxury of “start over again” moving and stuff, that bs is from your Hollywood movies.
I live with my family in a middle size apartment ffs. There’s no start over. There’s no ✨ change your environment ✨ I’m unemployed and poor. And that won’t change even if I had a job.
It would certainly help. “Change your environment” doesn’t necessarily mean “move”. Getting a job counts. Surrounding yourself with people who have healthy thought patterns counts. Redecorating your room counts.
Where did I say you were a failure? I am just trying to help. But it seems, as angry as you come off on the internet, you are happy with all the things you listed as detrimental to having a partner, which is fine. It’s just so odd that someone so opposed to having a relationship because they are happy with they way they are would even get so involved in a discussion on relationships with no real experience on the topic.
Though I will say, that the fact that you don’t want to improve yourself at all would be a red flag against me dating you. I believe that we should strive to improve ourselves every day - to become better people than we were before - because when you stay the same, you stagnate, which is not beneficial to your health or mental wellbeing.
Anyway, have a great life, good luck! I hope you get everything you deserve in life! ✌️
I’ve never said I’m happy. I’m fucked. But that’s the way things are
And your defeatist attitude will keep you there. Again, good luck. 👍
Is just facts, so I’m a defeatist because I don’t wanna fit?
You are a defeatist because you are unhappy and unwilling to do anything about it.
And that’s the last I’m saying. I just can’t bother with someone who wants to keep talking like the world is the way it is and there’s nothing you can do to change it.
There’s nothing that I can do about it dude. Is my reality and my soul, my nature. You just exist, i won’t change myself into something I don’t wanna be.
You don’t want to be happy?
I have some advice for you, that I hope you can apply (if not-- oh well, advice is cheap). There are no hard rules to life. There is no way that men or women (or others) must be, simply because they are. There is no “average woman”. There is no such thing as being bound to one purpose, or one fate. Your life is the sum of your choices and the experiences that result from them; no more, no less. And if you’re in an environment (IRL or online) where this seems to be wrong-- everyone thinks in a way that you disagree with, or agrees that change or exception are not possible-- change your environment. Your brain is a machine that will offload any choices it can make whenever possible to be more efficient. Your environment is a powerful shortcut. Make sure that it’s working in your favor. I wish you luck in changing your fate.
Changing your environment is a middle class luxury, do you think poor people have the luxury of “start over again” moving and stuff, that bs is from your Hollywood movies.
I live with my family in a middle size apartment ffs. There’s no start over. There’s no ✨ change your environment ✨ I’m unemployed and poor. And that won’t change even if I had a job.
It would certainly help. “Change your environment” doesn’t necessarily mean “move”. Getting a job counts. Surrounding yourself with people who have healthy thought patterns counts. Redecorating your room counts.