Yes in a general sense I agree with you. It’s a two way thing.
But some situations warrants the guest to start first. And some older folks, they want you to take initiative and start first. Believe me I got scolded many times in the past for not introducing myself. Which is fair. I’m the stranger going into their land. I’m the one who has to appear friendly and non harmful to their place.
These days I just langgar tembok and terrorise the younger person into an introductory chat before leaving them alone. I figure it’s a lot more effective from an introvert pov lol - 1. I broke the ice; 2. I don’t get to terasa; 3. If they’re cool they’re gonna say hi at another time as membalas, if not they’ll turn turtle and it’s not my fault XD
Yeah I get that, it’s good etiquette to start first when you’re younger, but I guess it’s just the next best option. There’s always the passive aggressive “Eh? No need introduce yourself ah?”
Why not prompt them to introduce themselves instead?
Yes in a general sense I agree with you. It’s a two way thing.
But some situations warrants the guest to start first. And some older folks, they want you to take initiative and start first. Believe me I got scolded many times in the past for not introducing myself. Which is fair. I’m the stranger going into their land. I’m the one who has to appear friendly and non harmful to their place.
These days I just langgar tembok and terrorise the younger person into an introductory chat before leaving them alone. I figure it’s a lot more effective from an introvert pov lol - 1. I broke the ice; 2. I don’t get to terasa; 3. If they’re cool they’re gonna say hi at another time as membalas, if not they’ll turn turtle and it’s not my fault XD
Yeah I get that, it’s good etiquette to start first when you’re younger, but I guess it’s just the next best option. There’s always the
passiveaggressive “Eh? No need introduce yourself ah?”