I jerk off daily and am worried about deathgrip problems. Should I invest in a fleshlight? Or are they not as good as advertised? If so, any product recommendations?
I jerk off daily and am worried about deathgrip problems. Should I invest in a fleshlight? Or are they not as good as advertised? If so, any product recommendations?
Can I ask, what is “death grip”? Never heard of it but this post makes it seem like a big thing.
Death grip is caused by masturbating and squeezing too hard or generating too much friction. It causes your penis to desensitize and makes it harder for you to orgasm.
Bizaroland nailed it.
A lot of young men, or more likely boys, have difficulty reaching orgasm when they first start to masturbate. Sometimes it might start because they just want things more intense, but what I’ve seen and heard makes having difficulty the more common origin.
So, they squeeze harder and go faster to increase friction. Once they get used to doing it that way, the nervous system gets used to it. That degree of pressure and speed become necessary, even after the original resistance changes as they age up and the body is better prepared for orgasm.
It’s more common among circumcised boys and men, but even some uncircumcised folks can develop the habit.
All of that would be a minor issue except that when the boy or man tries to have sex, it is unlikely to provide as much stimulation. This is particularly true of vaginal sex, but applies to oral and anal as well.
This means that a majority of men that have habituated to death grip have a lot of trouble, or even be completely incapable of, achieving orgasm and/or ejaculation with a partner.
To an extent, it’s similar to hearing a loud noise. You hear a loud bang, and your ears start ringing, which results in needing any sounds to be louder for a while. Then, if you keep encountering loud noises, your ears may ring much longer. Unlike that comparison, the desensitization death grip causes isn’t permanent even after years of doing it, unless there’s some underlying cause for the desensitization to begin with.
The reason it’s more common in circumcised men is that the head of the penis is supposed to have the protection and moisture provided by the foreskin. If you go look at photographs of the clitoris, you can see that they will normally be quite moist even when not aroused. That’s the way the penis is supposed to be, and when the head dries out it can be less sensitive as well as develop a thicker layer of skin that worsens the lack of sensation.
The foreskin is also very sensitive, and provides more sensation during all forms of sex and masturbation.